What comes to mind when you hear the word ROAR? I bet sitting in a bathroom waiting for toddlers to use the potty, while looking at the liquid on the floor that you know isn't water was not first on your list. You may have said, "A lion," which a lion does roar. But what if ROAR was a reminder to reset your attitude and perspective on your situation? Here's the story: My husband was gone for another military training, one where we had limited communication for eight weeks and I was at home, potty training our twins. He texted me one morning and told me to ROAR. Simply, he told me:
R: Remember who you are. O: Observe the situation. A: Accept the challenge. R: Reengage honorably. ROAR.
Multiple times a day, I find my heart dipped in anger and wanting to lash out at my children for just being children. But, then I remember to ROAR. First, who am I? I am a child of God, I have been appointed for this task. I have been given EVERYTHING I need for life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3-4). Did you catch that: EVERYTHING needed for life AND godliness. If I have been given everything, that means I have the patience I need to respond with kindness and gentleness, because God has already provided what I need in that moment.
Second, observe your situation. What is really happening, not what is happening through your lenses? Is it an error you made at work that now you have to make amends? Is it a broken plate your child threw because you took away their dinner for hitting their sister? Look at the situation from a bird's eye and see what is actually going on. Proverbs 18:13 tells us to listen to the whole matter before we respond. How do we know how to rightly respond when we don't see the whole picture?
Third, accept the challenge. Colossians 3:23 says, "And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men." We accept the challenge with our whole being, because God has given us everything we need to respond rightly. Take the challenge by it's horns, look it straight in the face, and press on.
Finally, reengage honorably. It's one thing to reengage, but to do so honorably is a different matter. With my twins, I could get flustered when we have made 10 trips to the potty with no results or I could slow down and go at their pace, as they are still learning. If we are to do everything with excellence and we have everything we need for life and godliness, surely we can ROAR when the situation gets rough.
In the end, it's all words on the page. How do you start this thinking process? Write it down! Put it in a place you see daily. I wrote this acronym on my bathroom mirror (as its where I spend all my time now with potty training twins) with the phrase, "Give Them Grace," to remind myself of the big picture: I have everything I need, EVERYTHING.