This Momentary Marriage | John Piper

I have to start with saying that I’m a John Piper fan. His ministry has influenced me as a pastor, husband, and dad. He’s a pretty big deal in my book. This book gives us the answers to “why marriage” over “how to do marriage.” This is important because if we miss on the foundations of what marriage is supposed to be, then we are guaranteed to miss the mark in the details of our marriage.

The most foundational thing you can say about marriage is that it is the doing of God, and the ultimate thing you can say about marriage is that it is for the display of God.

Marriage is created by God for his glory, and people that honor God in their marriages display God’s glory to the world. I really enjoyed reading this book. It was a push to see that God has a much bigger view of my marriage than I do, and it raises my awareness on how I can love and lead Ashley well.


This book is good because it hits on many large topics within marriage. There is grace, conflict resolution, forgiveness, parenting, and sexual intimacy, to name a few. It’s not a huge book (178 pages), but mine is packed with highlights and notes, all surrounding the big message of glorifying God in my marriage.

God gets glory when two very different and very imperfect people forge a life of faithfulness in the furnace of affliction by relying on Christ.

Ashley and I aren’t the same. Far from it. We aren’t perfect. Far from it. In the decade we’ve been married, we’ve seen many different kinds of trials and hardship, and we’ve been fortunate to see faithfulness from each other and from God. It’s a good reminder to keep pursuing Jesus with Ashley and remember his faithfulness to us.

Piper also talked about how one of the designs of marriage is for godly families.

Marriage is for making children into disciples of Jesus. Here the focus shifts. This purpose of marriage is not merely to add more bodies to the planet. The point is to increase the number of followers of Jesus on the planet.

I loved this quote. Ashley and I have 4 kiddos, and the goal is not simply to have them live, but to live for Jesus. That needs to be our prayer and focus when we raise our kids. It has to drive everything we do, because it falls in line with how Jesus calls us to make more and better disciples. Kids fit into that category, and kids see God’s glory when we honor him with our marriage.


I think the biggest reason why the book is good for marriage is because it spends time on roles within marriage. Piper spends multiple chapters on what it looks like to be a godly husband and godly wife.

Few things are more broken in our day than manhood and readership in relation to women and families… Headship is the divine calling of a husband to take primary responsibility for Christlike, servant leadership, protection and provision in the home. Submission is the divine calling of a wife to honor and affirm her husband’s leadership and help carry it through according to her gifts.

There is a great challenge laid down for the men to step up in their pursuit of Jesus and service to their family. For women, the call is to put your primary hope in Christ so that you can love and support your husband well. He says it much better than I can.

Piper continually brings it back to our marriage being a display for the glory of God, which is exciting and daunting at the same time. Marriage is a huge privilege that needs to be taken seriously and lived out joyfully. It also needs to show people that there is eternity to live for, not just for today.


Read it slow. Take your time. Get a highlighter and take notes. This is a good book for a couple to go through together. You could read two chapters a week for 8 weeks and take some time out of your weekly date to talk about the book. Keep in mind that people read at different speeds, so go at a pace that is sustainable but that doesn’t drag on.

Read this book for your marriage, and be ready to see a much bigger purpose for your relationship with your spouse. You can find the book HERE

You can also see a story of a couple that used this book in their marriage (warning, if you watch the video, kleenex is needed): WATCH

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